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Hey everyone! I don't post on here super often, but I've been laid up for a week now and I'm going a little crazy. Total cabin fever.

I used to see forums like this on the internet back home, and I thought it might be kind of fun here too, so I thought I'd give it a try, because reading those forums was always a lot of fun.

So, Crowd-Sourced Relationship Advice!

I turned on anonymous posting on here, so you can make a fake username and submit a description of a problem that you're having in your relationships, either romantic or at work or whatever, and other anonymous people can give you advice!

Or you can stay logged in on your real account. Up to you!

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Is it really that important to be in a relationship? Friendship...that should be enough right?

I've been hurt before--of my own doing, I'll own that, so maybe I'm just not meant for this. That has to be it, I think?

if you've been hurt that's all the more reason to fool around
then rub it in your ex's face
foolproof

Neither are my 'exs' as I never....dated them.
I don't want to 'fool' around with anyone and have them get hurt.
Not. Fool. Proof.

so
you haven't dated anyone
but you want to give up on romance?
oh my goddddddd you sound like so many girls i went to school with

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You don't need to be in a relationship. I didn't get into a relationship until I was thirty and I never felt like I was missing something.

There's no point in forcing it, anyway. Sometimes you just meet the right person, but until then you'll gain nothing by trying to force it to happen with someone who might not be right for you.

It doesn't feel like anything is missing from me, but, I made the choice to not be with two people--not at the same time but two different times.

I'm not trying to make anything happen, just...wondering if friendship is enough--it should feel like enough, but I don't know.

Of course it's enough. Friendship is even more important, if you ask me. If you mean you just can't stay friends with this one specific person, but one or both of you just aren't ready or interested in a romantic relationship, then I guess the only option is for the both of you to go your own separate ways.

I can't say I've ever been in your situation. But I was in love with my best friend before, and we were together for a while, but I know he will always be my friend, no matter what. He's too important in my life for me to give that up.

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Friendship should be more than enough for most.

You're not missing anything.

I think it should be, but considering how many people have replied to this thread, it's making me wonder about relationships--romantic ones, if they're really all that..great.

They're not.

People are very dramatic, though.

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Romantic relationships aren't for everyone and there's nothing wrong with that.

Thanks, that's what I needed to hear--read.

I thought maybe so. It's a weird thing for people to pressure other people into.

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Relationships will only set you up for future heartbreak.

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That's what I figured.

I can't say I've been in a relationship...but the two people I had feelings for (two separate people at separate times)...I've hurt them and been hurt by them.

I think I'm bad at this over all.

Have you ever seen a successful relationship? It's probably not just you.

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take this with a grain of salt since I'm on the rebound myself but there's no harm in giving it another try. is there anything you're good at that you were perfect at the first time you did it? or the first two times?

I bet that's a big 'hell naw' right?

that being said, no, romantic relationships aren't everything. don't stress about it. it always happens when you're not looking for it and friendships are just as important.

actually probably more important.

On the what? Rebound? Not a term I've heard before.

I was looking for anything when the first two happened and they crumbled--in a very big and bad way.

Friendships were enough for me, and still are, but..I don't know anymore. I want to keep my friends close, but I don't know if want to pursue anything with anyone..

But it felt nice to actually have someone around? IDEK.

rebound is when youre fresh out of a relationship ad probably shouldnt be looking for another one but you are anyway. usually doomed to fail.

what happened if you dont mind my asking?

you know, you dont have to pursue things if you dont want to. friends can be around just as good as romantic partners, and a lot of the time friends are really more important. its why the person I was dating before started out as a really close friend

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There's really nothing wrong with not wanting to be in a relationship. Different people have different desires and needs. I mean there's way more to relationships than just black and white together or not.

It kind of comes across as black and white, at least in the movies that's how it seems.

90% of the time, movies are wrong about what people want in a relationship and how relationships work. Besides, they never really bring up people on the non-hetrosexual spectrum. Or people who are asexual or demisexual or what not.

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they're both pointless and you're going to get hurt by both.

just use the person for whatever you need from them, leave before you get attached.

That doesn't sound right either.

I don't want to use people.

then you're going to get hurt. the world's not built for nice folks.

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