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Do you consider your LJ to be your private space, or a public arena, or somewhere between the two? I think of mine as very public, and flock anything I don't want to share with the universe, but I often bump up against people who consider their LJs to be much more of a personal space, and don't want the likes of me friending them, disagreeing with them, etc. I think that attitude is understandable and try to respect it; but it's not always obvious that this is someone's attitude, and suddenly I'm right where they don't want me, ie, in their face.

who_daily has caused a bit of trouble now and again by linking to folks who didn't expect the whole of fandom to suddenly turn up in their journal, and who weren't actually looking for a debate, thank you very much. So tell me: how public do you consider your LJ to be?

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From:

apiphile.livejournal.com

Mine's public ish, but I'm not always happy about people linking to my rants out of context because I tend to carry on thought processes from one post to the next, and arriving at one point in the arc generally doesn't provide newcomers with all the information. I don't lock it because I like new people to have a chance to find out what they're getting into, and I can't friend back everyone who friends me without my reading list becoming unmanageable.

I think the fact that people use their journals for different things causes a lot of problems with people who aren't *aware* that everyone use theirs for something different - one person's blog of carefully-considered essays is someone else's braindump and venting station, and apparently it's not always obvious which is which.

From:

kateorman.livejournal.com

TBH I'm really worried that I inadvertently triggered wank by linking to your posting about not writing girl characters. :( :( :(

From:

apiphile.livejournal.com

It's like there are ninety steps involved in this; I ranted ineloquently and with injokes under the assumption that I wasn't talking to anyone new, you decided to share with people you assumed were sane, gobsmacked thought it would make an interesting debate topic, the posters at f_d responded to the angry tone and wording rather than the issue I was hamfistedly moaning about and got annoyed with an injoke they knew nothing about, then some fucker thought it would be a good idea to link to me in mf when I was dissing mf, which really *does* smack of wank, and then I locked my entry to get rid of the mf posters, posted an angry entry, made f_d think I was talking about them, and it went round and round in circles.

... it's amazing how fast these things can build, isn't it? I mean, I barely gave any thought to the rant itself, I was just having a RAH WILL PEOPLE STOP PLACING THEIR PERSONAL POLITICS ABOVE TELLING A GOOD STORY and it went demented. I keep forgetting that just because story is more important than anything else to me, doesn't mean that other people's value systems are so dismissive of the real world. *sigh*